Breaking Free from CSD - Mental 1

"Only they who fulfil their duty in everyday matters will fulfil them on great occasions"
--C. Kingsley

We've looked at removing the blocks to flow at the physical and emotional levels in our quest to move away from CSD "Could, Should, Don't". At the mental level, there are three main blocks to flow:

1. Broken Agreements
2. Incompletion
3. Lack of Vision

Today, we can focus on Broken Agreements. What are broken agreements?
I say "I'll phone you tomorrow" and I don't. I say I'll send you some information" and I don't. I say "I'll meet you at 10pm" and I'm 15 minutes late. I say " I'll complete a piece of work by Friday" and I don't. I say "I'll achieve this goal" and I don't. A broken agreement undermines the power of your word. You are programming your mind to say your word is not creative. It doesn't mean much and certainly doesn't create much. Why? Because you said you would phone me and you didn't etc. It can seem quite trivial, but it has a powerful effect on one's life.

I call it the integrity muscle. How strong is your integrity muscle? When you declare that you will do something, does that guarantee anything? Is your word powerful and creative? I have one exercise called the Ten Commitments. I write down ten tasks I'm going to do today and I do them. They can be as easy as you like, and certainly in the early days, it is best to keep them easy to achieve, because you are staking your integrity on them. You must get them all done, not because they are important to do in themselves, but because you SAID you were going to do them.

Over time, your integrity muscle grows stronger and stronger and you can start to put more challenging items on your Ten Commitments list. The power of this is staggering, because ultimately you will be building an unstoppable capacity to achieve your goals simply by declaring that you will do something and letting your super integrity muscle work its magic. This is very exciting because the future looks brighter and brighter.

I write my list first thing in the morning - you might choose to write it the night before. It is not a to-do list. I have a separate list of things to do. The Ten Commitment list is an integrity-building list. Quite different (though some items can be on both). And of critical importance. But it does require discipline and a desire to build that integrity muscle.

Another way to do what you say and keep agreements could be to engage other people (e.g. a close friend, or a coach) you respect and be accountable to them. The key is to walk your talk and do what you say. Let the value of your word rise.

We'll look at Incompletion tomorrow.